tÄm Ätmano vijÄnÄ«yÄt
paty-apatya-gá¹›hÄtmakam
daivopasÄditaá¹ má¹›tyuá¹
má¹›gayor gÄyanaá¹ yathÄ
tÄm - the Lord's mÄyÄ; Ätmanaḥ - of herself; vijÄnÄ«yÄt - she should know; pati - husband; apatya - children; gá¹›ha - house; Ätmakam - consisting of; daiva - by the authority of the Lord; upasÄditam - brought about; má¹›tyum - death; má¹›gayoḥ - of the hunter; gÄyanam - the singing; yathÄ - as.
In these instructions of Lord Kapiladeva it is explained that not only is woman the gateway to hell for man, but man is also the gateway to hell for woman. It is a question of attachment. A man becomes attached to a woman because of her service, her beauty and many other assets, and similarly a woman becomes attached to a man for his giving her a nice place to live, ornaments, dress and children. It is a question of attachment for one another. As long as either is attached to the other for such material enjoyment, the woman is dangerous for the man, and the man is also dangerous for the woman. But if the attachment is transferred to Kṛṣṇa, both of them become Kṛṣṇa conscious, and then marriage is very nice. ÅšrÄ«la RÅ«pa GosvÄmÄ« therefore recommends:
anÄsaktasya viá¹£ayÄn
yathÄrham upayuñjataḥ
nirbandhaḥ kṛṣṇa-sambandhe
yuktaá¹ vairÄgyam ucyate
(Bhakti-rasÄmá¹›ta-sindhu 1.2.255)
Man and woman should live together as householders in relationship with Kṛṣṇa, only for the purpose of discharging duties in the service of Kṛṣṇa. Engage the children, engage the wife, and engage the husband, all in Kṛṣṇa conscious duties, and then all these bodily or material attachments will disappear. Since the medium is Kṛṣṇa, the consciousness is pure and there is no possibility of degradation at any time.